In a time when criticism can feel louder and more personal than ever, learning to accept and grow from feedback is a vital leadership skill.
No matter how open-minded we are, negative feedback can sting. It’s natural to feel defensive or even angry when criticized, especially in a world where public scrutiny and polarized opinions are everywhere. But how we handle criticism can define our personal and professional growth.
Pause Before You React
When negative feedback lands, your first instinct might be to react -- either by berating yourself or blaming the messenger. Instead, take a moment to breathe. Thank the person for their honesty, and give yourself space to reflect.
Sometimes, talking it over with a trusted friend or colleague can help you see the feedback in a new light.
Get Curious, Not Defensive
It’s human to feel threatened by criticism, but curiosity can turn a painful moment into a learning opportunity. Ask yourself: What can I learn here? Are there blind spots I haven’t noticed?
Seeking out the nugget of truth -- even in harsh feedback -- can help you grow and strengthen your relationships.
Take Action and Model Openness
Not all criticism will be fair or actionable, but much of it offers a chance for improvement. Use feedback as a springboard for discussion and development. When you respond with appreciation rather than anger, you’re not just helping yourself, you’re setting an example for your team.
In today’s climate, where trust and communication are often in short supply, modelling healthy feedback habits can make a real difference.
Be Kind to Yourself
Accepting feedback graciously isn’t easy. Celebrate your successes, and when you fall short, remember that growth is a journey. Give yourself the same empathy you offer others.
If you’re looking to strengthen your relationship with criticism -- and your team --let’s talk.
