Let’s be honest, receiving feedback can feel uncomfortable. But with the right mindset, it can become not just fruitful, but even joyful.
The reality is, most people hesitate to give feedback. They worry about how it will be received or if their perspective is welcome. Imagine, though, if you could create an environment where those fears disappeared. The conversations would be richer, more honest, and far more rewarding.
Here are six ways to make feedback discussions with you safe, productive, and even fun:
1. Be Openly Curious
Show genuine interest in others’ perspectives. Focus on what you can learn, not just what you think you know. Curiosity invites openness.
2. Create Psychological Safety
Accept feedback without judgment or defensiveness. Build trust by connecting on a personal level, learning who they are, and sharing more about yourself. Let them know how you might react in certain situations and that you value their input, regardless of your initial response. I like starting new working relationships with a frank conversation that turns into a "user's manual".
3. Ask Thoughtful Questions
Use open-ended questions to invite reflection and deeper insight. Avoid yes/no questions to encourage others to share their reasoning and experiences.
4. Truly Listen
Listening isn’t just hearing words, it’s paying attention to tone, body language, and intent. Listen to understand, not just to reply. Often, good listening leads to even better questions.
5. Pause and Reflect
Don’t rush to respond. Take a moment - or even a day - to process feedback. Reflection helps you respond thoughtfully and make better decisions.
6. Express Gratitude
Thank those who give you feedback. A simple, sincere acknowledgment builds trust and encourages future honesty.
By creating a safe space for feedback, you not only grow yourself but also inspire others to do the same. Embrace these steps, and you’ll find that feedback becomes a source of joy, not just for you, but for everyone involved.
